And what about those fatherless daughter's, who have no examples at all? Their plight is unique as they have no tangible example to relate to. Their only examples come from a concoction of ideals, media messages, hearsay and fairy-tale wishes. Fatherless daughters are easily left spinning their wheels looking for their missing father in the arms of men who will never give them what they were deprived of as a child. For that longing to fill an empty space can never be filled by a lover. It is a space designated for a father and a father alone. Yet, without knowing, many fatherless daughters try and try to fill that void in vain.
In some cases they accept far less than they deserve, playing roles they weren't meant to play, like that of a mistress, side piece or jump off as they are referred to today. Others suffer abuse at the hands of men who can't keep their hands to themselves. These paternal substitutes are skilled at mental manipulation and the art of playing on the weaknesses of women for their benefit. While some of you may be enraged by the depiction I've described, some of you will awaken and realize that this does relate to you or it has in the past. Or perhaps you can think of someone that you know, as you recall their inexplicable and maybe even disturbing behavioral patterns. Although this description is not one size fits all, it definitely applies to some, if not many.
So, how does one such individual overcome this foundation that has been laid? The first thing is to become aware of yourself and your behaviors. Spend some time analyzing yourself. Are you searching for that which you will never find, replacing it with poor substitutes? Are you accepting far less than you deserve, for the sake of love, affection and attention? If your answer is yes, then I would recommend that you look to your father in heaven who loves you more than you know. I know that it may not be what you wanted to hear, but it works. Search His word and you will find out how beautiful and precious you are. You will discover just how much you are loved. He will also show you what healthy love is. And by learning what healthy love is, you will also learn what love is not. For it is certainly not, all that you have tolerated thus far. I can assure you that to see yourself through the eyes of the one who created you, will be an eye opening experience that will change your life for the better!