Every single time I use to set a goal for myself, I had to first battle my fear of failure, before I took action. The voice in my head would tell me that I couldn't do it, it was too hard, I wasn't smart enough, I wasn't skilled enough, I didn't have enough financial resources to do it...and the list goes on. Before you know it, I had talked myself out of pursuing a goal or engaging in an activity that would have improved the quality of my life. How many of us have talked ourselves out of traveling, getting a degree, attending an event, owning a home, starting a business, making a new friend or even losing weight?
It took me a very long time to realize that my fears were not only controlling me, but they were preventing me from having the kind of life that I wanted. More importantly, I found out that there was absolutely nothing to be afraid of. All I had to do, was set a goal and work towards it until it was achieved. Whether the goal was finishing school, writing a book or singing karaoke, I quickly learned that overcoming my fear was the most difficult challenge. The actual goal or activity only required action. Once I realized that, I began to recognize my fear once it began, then I would combat it by telling myself positive affirmations.
They say that courage is controlled fear. And oh how I love that saying! It tells me that everyone has fears, which means it's perfectly normal! The determining factor will be whether you control your fear or you allow your fear to control you. So, when fear starts talking you out of something that will add value to your life, tell fear to got hell! You can do this! You've only got one life, so be fearless! The reward will be in the quality of your life.