Have you ever tried and tried to use your willpower to help you overcome something or to quit something? You found yourself trying over and over again, and you told yourself: This time I will do it for sure! Or, this time is the last time...but it wasn't? Perhaps you are trying to quit smoking, end a relationship, or even start one? Perhaps you have an addiction to food, drugs or alcohol? Or maybe you are depressed and you can't seem to will yourself into happiness? I don't know about you, but my willpower has failed me time and time again...even now! I long to get in better physical shape and to have a healthier lifestyle, but no matter how uncomfortable or dissatisfied I am with the way things are and no matter how many times I talk myself into a frenzy, swearing that I'll make a change...I do nothing! My willpower simply is not strong enough to do the job. However, as I reflect back to when I made the most lasting and positive changes in my life, I realized something. I realized that I didn't use willpower in those instances. I used prayer instead. I know... most people hear about prayer and they run for the hills. Maybe that's because they think to pray is laborious and that you have to pull out a list of impressive vocabulary words. Or maybe some feel like you have to be a perfect religious person in order to pray. NOT! I used to think that way too. First of all, simple is always best. There's no need to try to impress anyone and you don't have to be religious or perfect. NO ONE IS PERFECT...and I'm not just saying that to make you feel better. It even says that in the bible. Anyway, just have a conversation about what you're going through and ask for help. I find that thanking God for the blessings I already have is a good way to start. Prayer has helped me out of some really big battles. For example: I was really depressed for years and no matter what I did I couldn't snap out of it. It's only when I prayed about it and believed that things would change, that it finally did. It was much simpler and less exhausting...not to mention effective. As I write this, I am informing you but also reminding myself as well. As there are several areas in my life that I need to and will apply this to. The bottom line is that some battles require a little spiritual help and there's no shame in that. It's like asking your parent who would do anything for you, to help. There's a reason why 12-step programs start off with the Serenity Prayer. Willpower is great, but sometimes it just isn't enough. So, what will you do the next time your willpower fails you? Will you give up and throw in the towel? Will you keep trying even though you keep getting the same results? Or will you try something new? As for me, I know what I need to do.
Many people don't like the word prostitution, but it's been around for a very long time. Prostitution is defined as: The practice or occupation of engaging in sexual activity with someone for payment. Now that we understand the meaning, allow me to present my case. I have overheard and talked to both women and men about this issue and there appears to be an unspoken understanding between the two.
Here is what one man said: Nowadays, women only want money. They want their bills paid, nails and hair done; otherwise they won't sleep with you. We men know that, so we put some money aside just for that purpose. The woman feels good because she feels like she did something great to get us to give up the money. But the reality is, it's just a part of the game and you play until you are ready to get rid of her. She's not the type of woman you keep. She probably does this to every guy and sees more than one guy at the same time anyway. Here is what one woman said: I don't give a man sex if he doesn't give me money. I don't have time to waste with these fools, my bills need to be paid. If he can't do it then another man will. Yes, I deal with more than one person at once. These guys out here are stupid. They only serve one purpose.
So here are my questions: If these two individuals got together, would that be a form of prostitution? If not, then what is it? Neither of the two conversations ever touched upon the subject of love or companionship. So...is love, romance and marriage an antiquated notion these days? If a man can easily pay a woman for sex, what does that mean for single women who are looking for the real deal? If a woman is only looking for money, then what does it mean for a man who is looking for real love? I guess my final point is this: At the end of the day, when a person engages in such a transaction, is he/she satisfied? Is sex and money so important that love no longer matters? What do you think?
What is it about child-support that causes anger on the part of the individual that has to pay it? I don't think I'll ever understand. There is a cycle of Father-less children that are not reaping the benefits of both mother and father. Child support is helpful but it is nothing compared to the figurative riches that a father bestows upon their son or daughter: love, guidance, direction, acceptance, integrity and a solid and healthy example to follow. Monetary support is a given. It is not a penalty for a crime. It is an innocent child's God-given right to be cared for by both parents. So....why the complaints?? Grow up and do more than what is mandated by the law! Be a father!