· Don’t isolate yourself: Resist the urge to stay in and isolate yourself. Being alone will only feed your feelings of sadness. Instead reach out to friends or family members. You’d be surprised how good being amongst others will make you feel. Perhaps by reaching out, you are preventing someone else from being alone and depressed.
· Do something nice for someone else: Do you know someone in need or that might be in need of a smile? Maybe you know of a child you can buy a toy for? Do any kind act or gesture that will put a smile on the face of another person. Volunteer to help an organization. Happiness is contagious. Being the cause of someone else’s happiness will be sure to bring you some joy.
· Play music: Everyone loves music! When you’re feeling a case of the blues coming on, recognize it, and stop it in its tracks by putting on some good music, sing and even dance it out!
· Pray and count your blessings: Don’t forget about the power of prayer and counting your blessings. Life and loss is hard and painful at times. However we can’t allow ourselves to forget the blessings that we still have. If you woke up this morning and are able to read this, then you have two blessings on your list already. Keep counting, be grateful and it will lift your spirits. Especially when you remember that there are those who are unable to list the first two things on your list.
· Remember the good times: For those of us who are missing someone, whether they have passed away or are still alive. Focus not on the pain of separation. Instead, remember the good memories you’ve experienced together. The joy, the moments and the memories. That is what life is all about. Life is about the moments of loving and being loved. It’s not about money or the milestones. Savor those moments for the rest of your life. Life is too short to do otherwise.
· Give your time: You’d be surprised how much more your loved ones would appreciate quality time with you. The holidays don’t have to have to be about spending money. Instead spend time with those you love and create memories. There are many things to do around the holidays that don’t cost a lot of money. Decorate the tree together, stroll around the neighborhood and check out the festive lights and decorations. There are plenty of sites boasting free activities in NYC, check them out. Here’s one: http://www.nycgo.com/free/
· Don’t drown your sorrows: The temptation is great to drown your sorrows in food and alcohol. However don’t give in. You’ll regret it. Moderation is your best bet and we all know that too much of anything is not good at all. If you do drink, remember to have a safety plan, like a cab or a friend pick you up and take you home.
· Call for help: If your blues worsen to a severe depressed state and you have thoughts of suicide. Call a friend you can trust or call: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.