This inability to say no, can cause unnecessary stress from the inner turmoil of suppressing your feelings. For not only did you say yes to something you didn't want to do, but now you're committed to doing it; which makes you even more unhappy. If that's not bad enough, now you are probably mad at yourself for not being able to say no. That's a lot of negativity to carry around. I must admit that when I was younger, I too struggled with saying no. I hated hurting other people's feelings, so I would put the feelings of others before my own discomfort.
I was so worried about hurting others, but instead I was hurting myself. I was suffering in silence, pretending to be fine when I wasn't. Not to mention, I started resenting and harboring anger against the person I said yes to. How could I blame them? I was the one that said yes, right? So, I'm sure you can imagine what came next? That's right, I got mad at myself for getting myself into a predicament that I shouldn't have been in. I would experience all of these negative feelings, and they would frustrate and weigh me down terribly. All of this could have been avoided by learning to say no.
Then one day, I finally realized the magnitude of the unnecessary stress that I was putting myself through and the impact of that stress on my health and state of mind. Most importantly, I realized that I had to value my own feelings. If you can relate to this, then it's time to learn the liberty and power of the word no. Give voice to your inner you. Be true to yourself and you will be a happier and healthier you. Whether someone is taking advantage of you, or you are being subjected to a situation or act that causes you pain. Find your voice, say it and mean it: No. It's as simple as that. Always remember that your feelings are important too. So take care of you! If you don't, then who will?