This blog is about men from other countries that pretend to love and then marry an American woman, in order to gain citizenship. What two consenting adults willingly agree to do is one thing. However, to intentionally deceive a woman and play with her emotions is another matter all together. It's just cruel. I have heard lots of stories where the woman is left heartbroken and sometimes even broke, due to these circumstances. What kind of mind is so cold and calculated that it will choose to prey upon a woman, lie to her, sleep next to her and use her sexually, emotionally, and financially; only to walk away once the goal is achieved? I think it's a wicked act, but that's just my opinion.
Perhaps the horror stories I've heard, have made me cynical. I briefly dated two people who I later learned, we're "temporary residents gone rogue" as I call them. Once I discovered that vital information, I was permanently turned off, so I cut it off before it began. Why? Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. The theory pertains to what motivates people. Maslow states that "people are motivated to achieve certain needs. When one need is fulfilled a person seeks to fulfill the next need and so on." For example: Children can't focus on learning if they are hungry or other important needs like safety aren't being met. This theory is relative in this topic of Green Card Love as well . Why would I want to date a man whose primary need/objective is gaining citizenship? He can't focus on me and have genuine feelings for me, if he is desperately focused on how to meet his primary need. To him, I will become only a facilitator to help him meet his most pressing need. Once that need is met, then the man will think about his future and heart. The facilitator is unlikely to be factored into that future. The facilitator is unlikely to be the object of affection and or love. Why, because when a person is starving they will grab the first food they spot, even if it's in the garbage. When the belly is full, they can hold out for a steak and they will. Some other woman (the steak) will get his heart instead. I've seen it too many times.
Yes, sure there are always exceptions, but this is not about those exceptions to the rule. This about the rule. Look, no one is perfect. We all have our crosses to bare and deal with things the best way we know how. Sometimes we make bad choices. So, I'm not trying to put any one down, but I can't respect a man for choosing that method of deception. Furthermore, I have to warn women to be on their guard and to be prepared for a bad outcome if they are in this type of situation. Some women are left so broken after going through this, that they don't recover. I wouldn't wish that on any woman. So, what do you do if you are in a situation like that and you aren't sure if it's love? Well, check out my previous blog for starters: "He loves me, he loves me not". The rest is up to you.