Sometimes when I look at certain choices I've made and the price I've paid, I ask myself what is the difference between me and others that have far less bags of regret? I've come to realize that the only difference between them and me, is that they have learned to live in the now. I on the other hand have often procrastinated as I hoped for a better tomorrow: I delayed breaking off a toxic relationship thinking things would change.Yet instead my heart broke everyday and things never changed, they got worse. I delayed adopting a healthier lifestyle. Yet instead my weight increased and my health worsened. I delayed finishing my college education. Meanwhile, my age increased as well as my responsibilities. So because of my failure to act, I ended up learning an important lesson the hard way. I learned that a better tomorrow is now/today and that things won't ever improve or change without taking action.
It's only by taking action that brings about change. I know it sounds simple but it's not, is it? Otherwise most of us would easily do what needed to be done in order to get what we want. I think about my thought processes during times when I contemplated change but opted not to act. It's only now that I realize what my biggest problem was. I was thinking about the painful process of taking action, instead of the positive outcome I wanted. Using those same examples above: I didn't end the relationship because I wanted to avoid conflict or thought I would be losing something; it would hurt too much to leave. It turns out that it hurt much more to stay. With regards to my healthy lifestyle, dieting and exercise seemed so laborious and complicated. Who wants to give up tasty foods and endure the sweat and soreness that comes from exercise? It turns out that medical bills, hypertension and being overweight is far more difficult to deal with. And as far as my education, well school is hard and if you aren't focused, it is just so much harder. Not to mention the expense. However, I learned that getting a college degree after children while managing other responsibilities is so much more difficult than when you are young and life is far simpler.
I guess the bottom line is, you have to decide if you want to continue to accumulate bags and bags of regret. If not, then I would advise you to live in the now and stop wishing on a star for a better tomorrow. You must take action, even if it's one step at a time. Don't focus on the steps, focus on the outcome you desire. Change is not easy but it will be worth it. If you do nothing, then you know the only thing gained will be another bag of regret. If you choose to do nothing, then you have only yourself to blame. The choice is yours.